UGH, I have my first pre-canna class tonight so we can get married in the church.?

I guess I am worried because we are not super religious.... I believe in God and the bible but we don't go do church or pray very often. My fiancé doesn’t believe in anything so that worries me. We are meeting with the Minster who is going to marry us tonight. For our first meeting class the Minster was a real jerk so I am little worried about the new one but he can’t be any worst. Anyone have any good stories for me? Horror stories, funny stories or did it go great for you guys?

UGH, I have my first pre-canna class tonight so we can get married in the church.?
i got married in a catholic church and we were forced to do the marriage classes even though we had been together for 7 years at that point.


our preist was a jerk too!! i seriously wanted to punch him at every meeting. i called him father hitler (not very nice i know, and never to his face, but he was a total dictator!!!)


good luck though, hope you have better luck than i did!
Reply:Are you sure you're ready to get married since you're obviously whiny and tempermental? I hope your fiance comes to his senses - love the dill weed comment - very mature of you. Report It

Reply:my husband and i got married three months ago....we had to have the classes. it was nerve-racking! but it turned out ok. our minister was sooo old...he married my parents also. so he couldnt hardly hear a word we'd say anyway! so if Tommy (my husband) said something stupid or if we didnt understand what the preacher was saying...we'd just nod our heads in agreement. ha. and at the wedding the minister said "We are here to celebrate the joining of "Stephen and Tommy"....um...my name is Stephanie! hahahaha....but wedding without amusement...are boring : ) Point is...the classes make you nervous...but once they are over....its so worth it! : )
Reply:This is one of the reasons we decided not to marry in the Catholic Church....even though he belongs to a church...
Reply:Our pre-cana really wasn't too bad. But we only had to go once for 8 hours with a deacon, the priest came in later on. It really didn't center too much on "religion" as we aren't very religious either, just somewhat hokey. My advice to you though, is don't go into it with a negative attitude, it'll make it worse. It doesn't last forever and won't hurt you.
Reply:Question: Why in the world do you even WANT to get married in the Catholic Church????? It has nothing to do with "not being super religious"....it has to do with your beliefs. And especially since your fiance "doesn't believe in anything." You are a hypocrite and should be married elsewhere. Don't go to the classes if they are such a burden. Do you think you may actually LEARN something....perhaps how to strengthen a marriage that will (and it will!) have rocky and turbulent times?





Good luck to you....you are going to need it! On to the reception....the most important part, cuz obviously the wedding ceremony isn't!
Reply:While I didn't enjoy those classes, I have to say they were informative. Think of it as a counseling class rather than a religious obligation and you'll do just fine.
Reply:I hated these classes. It seemed stupid to take them since we had lived together for 7 years but of of course it was required for us to be married in the Catholic church. I couldnt imagine what the priest (who is single and supposedly celebate) could offer in the way of telling us anything about relationships or marriage. If I had to do it again, I would have found a minister on the internet and gotten married in the park!
Reply:We met in a married couple's house (they were married for over 20 yrs). We sat around with 6 other couples. My husband and I were the only ones that didn't live or sleep together already so WE were the ones who felt out of place. I can't say I learned anything from it. I knew everything about raising our children catholic and all of that stuff. It was nice meeting new people and learning about their lives. I don't believe it's really necessary to know who is going to balance the checkbook before you get married. That stuff sort of works itself out but they made us go around the room asking us who will deal with the finances....! Stuff like that we could have done without.





Good luck at your pre-cana!!
Reply:We were married 3 weeks ago, in a Catholic Church. My husband is not very religious at all ( similar to yours) , and I am only slightly so.


We were really nervous about going to pre-canna, but it was okay. Honestly we loved it and had a ton of fun going to the meetings.


I know it is hard to believe, but I really feel like we benefited from it even though we've been together for years and years.
Reply:If your not super religious, how come you decided to go through the church? Anyways, all the classes are made to help you strenghten your marriage. Listen to what they say and apply it to your relationship. We did the weekend retreat as well and it made a HUGE difference in how we see each other. Now we use what we learned to keep our marriage going.
Reply:I love the first answer...Father Hitler. Ha ha. You can still run BUbbles!!!!!! sell the house get all you money back. Ha ha ha hah ahahahahaha!!! Especially since you are gonna have a crazy MIL. Watch out!!!!! You can always come and run away with me.
Reply:My fiancé doesn’t believe in anything so that worries me.





That says volumes, and could be the reason that you are having such anxiety and so much trouble with these classes. A marriage is between a man, a woman and God, when one party takes God out of the equation how can it be a real marriage. Just some food for thought.